FEATURE: SEX OUTSIDE THE BED with Dr. TY ADAMS

Here is another post by a very powerful insightful woman of God Dr. Ty Adams.



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Daddy's Girl

FEATURE: SEX & CONDOMS w/ Ty Adams

Wow! I discovered Ty Adams a few months ago while surfing the web. This was definitely a divine introduction I think. In the months that I've learned more about her, she's inspired a few blogs of mine already. She's candid and spiritual and can talk on a natural subject while provided super natural advice. I hope you enjoy please leave comments on your thoughts.

WHAT IS THE WORLD COMING TO???

Ok so I was all prepared to blog about something completely different but when this particular incident was shared with me, I felt I had to speak on it with the world or whomever may come across this blog. This weekend I have heard some of the MOST disturbing news that I have ever heard in my life. You know a lot of things are prevalent in the world today that weren't ten years ago. I think our culture has been exposed to so much in terms of violence and crime, blood and gore that we have grown used to the everyday happenings of the world and nothing surprises us anymore.

In saying that, even though we are exposed to such violence on the news, prime time television and or movies, I hope that it doesn't ruin our capability to feel and cry for the world and the state that we are presently in. What I was told has rocked me to the core and I have not recuperated yet. I, having not been a witness, have been scarred and my heart cries for the people involved in this madness.

A girlfriend of mine has a client who happens to be a principal of a middle school in an urban, working class town in New Jersey. When she arrived for her normal Friday evening appointment she appeared disheveled and distressed and had apparently been crying. My friend being very comfortable with her client asked her what was the matter and the story she was told blew her mind as it did mine when I was told! The principal had been in her office conducting normal business as it was the end of the school day and she was preparing things for Monday morning. The only children that remained in school were those who attended the afterschool program. As she was taking care of paperwork a young boy burst into her office, "Ms. Principal, Ms. Principal, come with me I have to show you something!!!" By the look on his face and the tone of his voice she grew nervous and scared as she didn't know what to expect. Where she was led was to the boys bathroom and what she found were two 7th grade boys engaging in full on hard core sex!! Losing every bit of her composure she began screaming and yelling at the boys, "WHAT ARE YOU DOING??" over and over again. The boys were separated and taken into different rooms while the police, DYFS and parents were called.

The young boy who was actually having sex with other child was asked where did he learn this, and his answer was... that his parents had been both having sex with him.

Sidebar- Oh MY GOD!!!!! DID HE JUST SAY THAT BOTH OF HIS PARENTS WERE HAVING SEX WITH HIM? I think what bothers me most is that as a parent, I know how I love my son with my whole heart, I would kill for my little boy and to think that a woman or a man would make their own flesh and blood, make their own child take part in their twisted perversion sickens me. I can't understand at all how this is even feasible in one's mind!!! How do you even fantasize about having sex with your child??? The mind is a perverted place. All acts of crime can happen in the mind, but to even physically act on such a thing hurts me to my heart. I feel so bad that this poor boy had been exposed to such madness. I think what really gets to me is that usually you hear stories about one parent who secretly abuses the child and eventually it comes to the light. But for two parents to come together and agree to both molest their son is frightening!!!

He said in front of the principal, parents, police and DYFS that both his mother and father had forced him to have sex with them and that's where he learned it from. He was forced to have full on sex wit both his mother and his father!!!
At this point the principal had gone temporarily insane hysterically screaming at the parents who had nonchalantly spoken "Why are you lying on us?" obviously lying themselves. The boy was taken into custody until they could find a family member who was willing to take him in, while both parents where read their rights and hauled out of the school in handcuffs. I personally hope that they rot in jail and are punished to highest extent of the law!!

I have to say that I feel sorry for all of the people involved in this story. I feel sorry for the little boy who has had his innocence taken from him by the very people who were supposed to take care of him and protect him. I feel sorry for the boy who whether consented to this act or was coerced because he allowed his body to be taken and used in a way that he as a 12 year old isn't able to comprehend. I feel sorry for the little boy who just had to use the bathroom and had his innocence torn from him as the blinders of his childhood had been taken off by witnessing sex between two children. I feel sorry for the principal who studied to become an educator to empower children and protect them and to feel inadequate in finding what was going on in her school walls right under her nose. I feel sorry for the parents of the little boy who walked in to see this and the knot that must be twisting in their stomach of how to explain to their son what he just saw. I pray for you all. I pray for the world.

As a parent I am angered and hurt at the same time. I can't imagine how I would feel if my baby, my son walked into the bathroom and saw two kids having sex. After hearing this story I am seriously considering the alternatives, private school or home school. WOW... WHAT IS THIS WORLD COMING TO?

Thank you for listening to me go on about this, I hope that it's motivated the ones who have read this to pray for our children, pray for their outcome in this world, pray for their parents or other people to positively influence their lives.

Signing out sending peace & blessings,

Daddy's Girl

SINGLE, SAVED AND SEX

I thought a lot today about what I wanted to talk about and the topic that kept jumping out at me was Single, Saved and Sex. I think this topic kept popping into my head because this is one that is dear to my heart. There are a lot of young saved, single men and women out there that continue to battle with the struggle of having premarital sex. Some of them truly don't know that they are wrong to have sex outside of marriage and the ones who may have had abstinence taught to them didn't understand why they were being told to wait and thought that it was simply another thing that our parents didn't want us to do!

As a parent it's also quite discouraging to tell a child to wait on having sex when it's all around them. Today's society is choc' full o' sex!!! As they say "sex sells" and because of this, nearly everything thing sold on the market place has some kind of sexual overtone or undertone. When it's being marketed to women it's a softer sex, more romantic and sensual and when being marketed to a man, it's more overt and blatant. Either way we're being sold sex in a bottle in some way shape or form. Sex is in every genre of entertainment i. e. music, movie, etc. How do we not have sex when it seems like everyone around you is doing it? It seems so enjoyable so why not? I guess a question I could ask, is it possible to be single, saved and not have sex until marriage?

The answer is yes indeed!

I personally had an issue with being saved, a single woman and sex. I was raised to not have sex until marriage but I don't recall ever really being explained why not except for "because I said so!" or "you just don't!" As a young adult it left me curious as to why is something that is obviously natural not ok for me to do? I kind of thought that I was being left out of the loop, like it was one huge conspiracy plan against me! I think that we need to not be so inhibited with our children to not give them further explanation of why we say not to do something. I think children are pretty reasonable and if they have a question about why they shouldn't do something, they are just trying to rationalize and they want to make an informed decision and we shouldn't avoid talking to them because we are embarrassed by the topic. We need to not be afraid to speak of the true meaning and purpose for sex and why it was created for a husband and a wife to share not just to be done casually as sex has now become.

Women this is for you: To have intercourse with someone it's an exchange of emotion, fluids and "spiritual essence." I say this because if we look at the very act of sex, men have an external organ and women an internal organ. The man is the giver while the woman receives the man into her body. When a man and woman have sex there is an exchange and he leaves a bit of himself with her. Also, being that the act of sex was reserved only for husband and wife, when you have sex, legally married or not, God sees you as married! To casually have sex with multiple partners is now adultery. Not only is there the adultery that you have to contend with but it's the multiple partners that are left deposited in to your spirit that you have to deal with. Women, you pray for the right man, you pray and ask God to send you your husband, but how can he when you have no room left in your spirit to receive him? You've given yourself casually to men and committed yourself to them by engaging in an act that was sanctified only for marriage, you have tied God's hands. You have to purge yourself of the relations that you've had with men, clean yourself out and cling back to your one true love so that He can prepare you and make room for your husband.

When I asked myself now that I'm saved and I'm still single how am I going to find my husband and not have sex? God led me to read 1 Corinthians 6:12-20. What that passage talks about is what I just got finished explaining. The act of sex unites a man and woman making them "one flesh" to indulge in sexual immorality is committing sin against your own body. Your body wasn't made for your own indulgence your body was made for Him. Your body is the temple of God. You were bought at a high price, your body isn't your own. Therefore honor God with your body. When I dissect this and meditate on it even further, when you think about it, we were purchased by the blood of Jesus. It cost Him his life and it was the spilling of His blood that has covered me and allowed me to be set free from bondage. He's now with me always, living on the inside of me. How can I dishonor him? How can I pollute His dwellings after He laid His life down for me? If all I have to do is keep my temple pure to please Him then that's what I'll do. Just the insight and the understanding of why I shouldn't have sex until marriage was enough for me to say ok, I will not continue to give myself up freely to someone undeserving. I will purge myself and make room for my husband and give myself only to him.

So ladies, before you allow yourselves to lay down with another man, first think to yourself if you can see yourself being married to him, because you will be. Also, let the thought of if you like everything about him because as we found out, during the act of sex a man deposits his essence in the woman's body leaving himself behind. If you only like what he looks like and he has nothing of substance on the inside then think again because you will be carrying him around with you whether you like it or not! What is most important, is realize who lives on the inside of you. Acknowledge Him in all your ways. Acknowledge His presence and respect that He is there and that you are to honor your body and keep His temple Holy.

How to date and remain abstinent?
Date someone who shares the same beliefs as you do.
Talk about it and set boundaries early on in the relationship.
Date in groups.
Pray
Study the Word
Don't put yourself in an uncompromising situation.

Remember, with every temptation the Lord will make a way of escape.

I hope that you have enjoyed another episode of The "J" Spot with yours truly- Daddy's Girl

Peace & Blessings