This one is for all of my singles out there. What do you want for Christmas? That's the question a lot of people are being asked at this time of year and most responses are generic in that they are almost all the same, with requests of the cutest outfit or the hottest accessory of the season or maybe even a bottle of your favorite perfume. But when you go home at night all you'd really like to ask for is a beautiful man to slide up under your tree!
What is it about this time of year that has the lonely missing what they don't have? What is it about the holiday season that has you craving that significant other that you thought you were fine without? Could it be that as the years go by you are one of the only one's left at the dinner table without a date? Or is the latest news of your younger cousin who just got engaged to what seems like the perfect guy that you have yet to find? Or maybe it's the news that you're going to be a new auntie or a god mommy within the next year? Sometimes around the holidays you look around and you see where everyone else is in their lives and you notice more than ever where you are in yours.
Instead of it being a happy time of year, you find yourself cuddling your pillow tighter hoping that if you squeeze it hard enough it'll turn into a man. Unfortunately every morning you wake, it's still a pillow and it'll always be. Sometimes, you find yourself at home reminiscing on past relationships, that may not have been all of that, but in your lonely state you start to say 'well they weren't that bad' and even decide to call and allow them to pay you a visit or two. After those episodes of delirium you feel even worse than you had before you called and remember quite vividly why things didn't work out in the first place! Those acts of desperation are the last things that we want to do.
I don't know why we get so hard on ourselves around this time of year, that we want for what we don't have. I think the true meaning of the holidays are to be focused on our haves instead of our havenots. So though you may desire that perfect man that you can call all your own, and that beautiful diamond ring to show off or maybe even to share that you are about to take on one of life's most blessed events ever, focus on the things that you do have like great friends, a loving family and a whole lot to offer that special one when he finally does find you.
So this year, I challenge you that as you gather around the dinner table with your family and friends to have Christmas dinner to instead of looking around at your kin and noticing what they have that you don't, be thankful for all that you do have. Be thankful that you are alive and have your health, be thankful for your family and your friends and as you continue to be true to yourself, you never know who they may have invited to stop by for dinner!
Lighten up, tis' the season!
