THIS CHRISTmas...

This Christmas I want to take the time to remember what the true meaning of Christmas is. Please forget all of the Hallmark and commercialized propaganda, Christmas is the remembrance of the birth of Christ, the Savior our Lord Jesus. By the birth of Jesus we've been redeemed and given another chance. This Christmas, I encourage you to really receive it's true meaning into your hearts and be thankful for all that you have. For a lot of people, though this was to be the year of new beginnings, experienced a lot of trials and turmoil in their lives. The economy has tanked and people are losing their jobs left and right. This year, let's not be focused on all of the things that may be caving in around us. Let's keep our focus on God and be thankful for all that we do have.

Keep CHRIST in CHRISTmas!

Be blessed and Merry Christmas,

Daddy's Girl aka MzCeo

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SANTA, JUST PUT A MAN UNDER MY TREE!!

This one is for all of my singles out there. What do you want for Christmas? That's the question a lot of people are being asked at this time of year and most responses are generic in that they are almost all the same, with requests of the cutest outfit or the hottest accessory of the season or maybe even a bottle of your favorite perfume. But when you go home at night all you'd really like to ask for is a beautiful man to slide up under your tree!

What is it about this time of year that has the lonely missing what they don't have? What is it about the holiday season that has you craving that significant other that you thought you were fine without? Could it be that as the years go by you are one of the only one's left at the dinner table without a date? Or is the latest news of your younger cousin who just got engaged to what seems like the perfect guy that you have yet to find? Or maybe it's the news that you're going to be a new auntie or a god mommy within the next year? Sometimes around the holidays you look around and you see where everyone else is in their lives and you notice more than ever where you are in yours.

Instead of it being a happy time of year, you find yourself cuddling your pillow tighter hoping that if you squeeze it hard enough it'll turn into a man. Unfortunately every morning you wake, it's still a pillow and it'll always be. Sometimes, you find yourself at home reminiscing on past relationships, that may not have been all of that, but in your lonely state you start to say 'well they weren't that bad' and even decide to call and allow them to pay you a visit or two. After those episodes of delirium you feel even worse than you had before you called and remember quite vividly why things didn't work out in the first place! Those acts of desperation are the last things that we want to do.

I don't know why we get so hard on ourselves around this time of year, that we want for what we don't have. I think the true meaning of the holidays are to be focused on our haves instead of our havenots. So though you may desire that perfect man that you can call all your own, and that beautiful diamond ring to show off or maybe even to share that you are about to take on one of life's most blessed events ever, focus on the things that you do have like great friends, a loving family and a whole lot to offer that special one when he finally does find you.

So this year, I challenge you that as you gather around the dinner table with your family and friends to have Christmas dinner to instead of looking around at your kin and noticing what they have that you don't, be thankful for all that you do have. Be thankful that you are alive and have your health, be thankful for your family and your friends and as you continue to be true to yourself, you never know who they may have invited to stop by for dinner!

Lighten up, tis' the season!

FEATURE: SEX & CONDOMS w/ Ty Adams

Wow! I discovered Ty Adams a few months ago while surfing the web. This was definitely a divine introduction I think. In the months that I've learned more about her, she's inspired a few blogs of mine already. She's candid and spiritual and can talk on a natural subject while provided super natural advice. I hope you enjoy please leave comments on your thoughts.

THUG PASSION

Why has there always been an attraction between a good girl and a bad boy? What is it in a woman that draws her to him? Some think that it may just be the all too simple tale that opposites attract, which I think has some truth to it. Some also think that it's a fetish, it gives the good girl the opportunity to experience life on the "wild side" like she never would have known otherwise, I think that may also have some truth to it. One of my personal favorite theories are that woman are born with an innate maternal/ nurturing instinct. We always want to fix something or someone, this is the position that I really tend to side with. So what's the correct answer here? I say a strong case of ALL OF THE ABOVE!

Personally I think there are tons of reasons why some woman are attracted to the "bad boy" or the "thug life." The whole bad boy imagery is all over the television, especially in music videos. That lifestyle is portrayed as "the life" that everyone should want to live. To some women who have a normal, (what they would consider) boring, everyday life this may be attractive. It gives them the opportunity to live vicariously through someone else or it gives them that status of being "so and so's girl." Every girl who's dated a bad boy was "so and so's" girl for a time and everyone around the way knew that you were hands off. That faux feeling of status that you get from being some dude's girl that is high up on the food chain can feel empowering.



I think we have a tendency to see more good in a person than they are able to see in themselves. We see and fall for the "possibilities" while ignoring the "realities!!" We say to ourselves, "if I could just get him to stop doing this he would be the perfect guy" or "if he would stop hanging with this group of friends he'd stop getting in trouble and then he'd be the perfect guy." I'm not hating on any women out there who prefer the bad boy, for me it was a phase that I had gone through, and I think that's the case for a lot of women.



As for this goodie two shoes, I am not attracted to the streetlife or whatever glory it may bring. The tough guy persona is not what I am attracted to. Don't get me wrong, I don't want a pushover, I don't think any girl really wants that. I am attracted to testosterone and I would prefer my man to have a say so and have the ability to tell me "no" from time to time, but not too often! I don't want for him to be a punk and not able to stand up for himself or for me for that matter. However, what I am attracted to instead of the roughneck, tough guy is a strong sense of self confidence and not arrogance. He definitely has to be on the same page spiritually with me, he has to be intelligent and articulate. I am attracted to the kind of man that feels comfortable in a room full of stiff suits or on the street in from of a corner store. I am attracted to a sense of humor and a great personality.

So I have passed this cup of Thug Passion on to the next chick that craves a little adventure in her life and I am perfectly happy and satisfied with my God Fearing, respectable, educated, confident, articulate, loving and caring man! I sometimes look back in retrospect and wonder.... what was I thinking????