Emotions, there are a ton of them aren't there? There's love, happiness, sadness, depression, anger, frustration, fear, etc. There are so many different emotions that go through our minds sometimes several different emotions happen at once! Our feelings change as the wind blows in most cases. One second we can be flying high on cloud 9 and then the next thing that you know your down in the dumps because someone said something or did something to make you feel bad about yourself. How can we control our emotions so that we aren't always running so hot and cold? One thing is staying prayerful. Being prayed up keeps you grounded and centered. Prayer also keeps you focused. When in prayer at the start of your day you should ask for God to align your thoughts and actions to His thoughts and actions so that you are covered when and if the time arises that you are tested.
Also, I try not to stress because when it all boils down to it, there really isn't a need to. In those situations where you can't avoid conflict, I always just try my best to keep my peace. The bible says to be slow to anger and it also says that He will fight my battles so that I don't have to. I'm as human as either of you, and can sometimes lose my cool, but I do try to make a conscious effort in thinking before I speak or act. I've learned myself and in learning myself, I know that I have a tendency to be emotional and sensitive, so I try not to take things to heart.
Don't let your emotions get the best of you. Emotions though they may be true to how you feel at that very moment, are still superficial, because they change. Keep yourself grounded and focused in prayer instead of riding the emotional roller coaster of highs and lows.
Thanks for tuning in to another episode of The "J" Spot this is Daddy's Girl signing out~~~~
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
Saturday, October 25, 2008
SINGLE, SAVED AND SEX
I thought a lot today about what I wanted to talk about and the topic that kept jumping out at me was Single, Saved and Sex. I think this topic kept popping into my head because this is one that is dear to my heart. There are a lot of young saved, single men and women out there that continue to battle with the struggle of having premarital sex. Some of them truly don't know that they are wrong to have sex outside of marriage and the ones who may have had abstinence taught to them didn't understand why they were being told to wait and thought that it was simply another thing that our parents didn't want us to do!
As a parent it's also quite discouraging to tell a child to wait on having sex when it's all around them. Today's society is choc' full o' sex!!! As they say "sex sells" and because of this, nearly everything thing sold on the market place has some kind of sexual overtone or undertone. When it's being marketed to women it's a softer sex, more romantic and sensual and when being marketed to a man, it's more overt and blatant. Either way we're being sold sex in a bottle in some way shape or form. Sex is in every genre of entertainment i. e. music, movie, etc. How do we not have sex when it seems like everyone around you is doing it? It seems so enjoyable so why not? I guess a question I could ask, is it possible to be single, saved and not have sex until marriage?
The answer is yes indeed!
I personally had an issue with being saved, a single woman and sex. I was raised to not have sex until marriage but I don't recall ever really being explained why not except for "because I said so!" or "you just don't!" As a young adult it left me curious as to why is something that is obviously natural not ok for me to do? I kind of thought that I was being left out of the loop, like it was one huge conspiracy plan against me! I think that we need to not be so inhibited with our children to not give them further explanation of why we say not to do something. I think children are pretty reasonable and if they have a question about why they shouldn't do something, they are just trying to rationalize and they want to make an informed decision and we shouldn't avoid talking to them because we are embarrassed by the topic. We need to not be afraid to speak of the true meaning and purpose for sex and why it was created for a husband and a wife to share not just to be done casually as sex has now become.
Women this is for you: To have intercourse with someone it's an exchange of emotion, fluids and "spiritual essence." I say this because if we look at the very act of sex, men have an external organ and women an internal organ. The man is the giver while the woman receives the man into her body. When a man and woman have sex there is an exchange and he leaves a bit of himself with her. Also, being that the act of sex was reserved only for husband and wife, when you have sex, legally married or not, God sees you as married! To casually have sex with multiple partners is now adultery. Not only is there the adultery that you have to contend with but it's the multiple partners that are left deposited in to your spirit that you have to deal with. Women, you pray for the right man, you pray and ask God to send you your husband, but how can he when you have no room left in your spirit to receive him? You've given yourself casually to men and committed yourself to them by engaging in an act that was sanctified only for marriage, you have tied God's hands. You have to purge yourself of the relations that you've had with men, clean yourself out and cling back to your one true love so that He can prepare you and make room for your husband.
When I asked myself now that I'm saved and I'm still single how am I going to find my husband and not have sex? God led me to read 1 Corinthians 6:12-20. What that passage talks about is what I just got finished explaining. The act of sex unites a man and woman making them "one flesh" to indulge in sexual immorality is committing sin against your own body. Your body wasn't made for your own indulgence your body was made for Him. Your body is the temple of God. You were bought at a high price, your body isn't your own. Therefore honor God with your body. When I dissect this and meditate on it even further, when you think about it, we were purchased by the blood of Jesus. It cost Him his life and it was the spilling of His blood that has covered me and allowed me to be set free from bondage. He's now with me always, living on the inside of me. How can I dishonor him? How can I pollute His dwellings after He laid His life down for me? If all I have to do is keep my temple pure to please Him then that's what I'll do. Just the insight and the understanding of why I shouldn't have sex until marriage was enough for me to say ok, I will not continue to give myself up freely to someone undeserving. I will purge myself and make room for my husband and give myself only to him.
So ladies, before you allow yourselves to lay down with another man, first think to yourself if you can see yourself being married to him, because you will be. Also, let the thought of if you like everything about him because as we found out, during the act of sex a man deposits his essence in the woman's body leaving himself behind. If you only like what he looks like and he has nothing of substance on the inside then think again because you will be carrying him around with you whether you like it or not! What is most important, is realize who lives on the inside of you. Acknowledge Him in all your ways. Acknowledge His presence and respect that He is there and that you are to honor your body and keep His temple Holy.
How to date and remain abstinent?
Date someone who shares the same beliefs as you do.
Talk about it and set boundaries early on in the relationship.
Date in groups.
Pray
Study the Word
Don't put yourself in an uncompromising situation.
Remember, with every temptation the Lord will make a way of escape.
I hope that you have enjoyed another episode of The "J" Spot with yours truly- Daddy's Girl
Peace & Blessings
As a parent it's also quite discouraging to tell a child to wait on having sex when it's all around them. Today's society is choc' full o' sex!!! As they say "sex sells" and because of this, nearly everything thing sold on the market place has some kind of sexual overtone or undertone. When it's being marketed to women it's a softer sex, more romantic and sensual and when being marketed to a man, it's more overt and blatant. Either way we're being sold sex in a bottle in some way shape or form. Sex is in every genre of entertainment i. e. music, movie, etc. How do we not have sex when it seems like everyone around you is doing it? It seems so enjoyable so why not? I guess a question I could ask, is it possible to be single, saved and not have sex until marriage?
The answer is yes indeed!
I personally had an issue with being saved, a single woman and sex. I was raised to not have sex until marriage but I don't recall ever really being explained why not except for "because I said so!" or "you just don't!" As a young adult it left me curious as to why is something that is obviously natural not ok for me to do? I kind of thought that I was being left out of the loop, like it was one huge conspiracy plan against me! I think that we need to not be so inhibited with our children to not give them further explanation of why we say not to do something. I think children are pretty reasonable and if they have a question about why they shouldn't do something, they are just trying to rationalize and they want to make an informed decision and we shouldn't avoid talking to them because we are embarrassed by the topic. We need to not be afraid to speak of the true meaning and purpose for sex and why it was created for a husband and a wife to share not just to be done casually as sex has now become.
Women this is for you: To have intercourse with someone it's an exchange of emotion, fluids and "spiritual essence." I say this because if we look at the very act of sex, men have an external organ and women an internal organ. The man is the giver while the woman receives the man into her body. When a man and woman have sex there is an exchange and he leaves a bit of himself with her. Also, being that the act of sex was reserved only for husband and wife, when you have sex, legally married or not, God sees you as married! To casually have sex with multiple partners is now adultery. Not only is there the adultery that you have to contend with but it's the multiple partners that are left deposited in to your spirit that you have to deal with. Women, you pray for the right man, you pray and ask God to send you your husband, but how can he when you have no room left in your spirit to receive him? You've given yourself casually to men and committed yourself to them by engaging in an act that was sanctified only for marriage, you have tied God's hands. You have to purge yourself of the relations that you've had with men, clean yourself out and cling back to your one true love so that He can prepare you and make room for your husband.
When I asked myself now that I'm saved and I'm still single how am I going to find my husband and not have sex? God led me to read 1 Corinthians 6:12-20. What that passage talks about is what I just got finished explaining. The act of sex unites a man and woman making them "one flesh" to indulge in sexual immorality is committing sin against your own body. Your body wasn't made for your own indulgence your body was made for Him. Your body is the temple of God. You were bought at a high price, your body isn't your own. Therefore honor God with your body. When I dissect this and meditate on it even further, when you think about it, we were purchased by the blood of Jesus. It cost Him his life and it was the spilling of His blood that has covered me and allowed me to be set free from bondage. He's now with me always, living on the inside of me. How can I dishonor him? How can I pollute His dwellings after He laid His life down for me? If all I have to do is keep my temple pure to please Him then that's what I'll do. Just the insight and the understanding of why I shouldn't have sex until marriage was enough for me to say ok, I will not continue to give myself up freely to someone undeserving. I will purge myself and make room for my husband and give myself only to him.
So ladies, before you allow yourselves to lay down with another man, first think to yourself if you can see yourself being married to him, because you will be. Also, let the thought of if you like everything about him because as we found out, during the act of sex a man deposits his essence in the woman's body leaving himself behind. If you only like what he looks like and he has nothing of substance on the inside then think again because you will be carrying him around with you whether you like it or not! What is most important, is realize who lives on the inside of you. Acknowledge Him in all your ways. Acknowledge His presence and respect that He is there and that you are to honor your body and keep His temple Holy.
How to date and remain abstinent?
Date someone who shares the same beliefs as you do.
Talk about it and set boundaries early on in the relationship.
Date in groups.
Pray
Study the Word
Don't put yourself in an uncompromising situation.
Remember, with every temptation the Lord will make a way of escape.
I hope that you have enjoyed another episode of The "J" Spot with yours truly- Daddy's Girl
Peace & Blessings
Thursday, October 23, 2008
WHAT IS LOVE?
By the world's standards and definition LOVE is a feeling. When you are in love with a person it releases certain endorphins in the body and causes feelings of euphoria. You are so high on this surge of emotion that this other person evokes that the word love is often equated to that feeling.
To me love is a choice, it isn't just a feeling of euphoria. I think that you choose to love a person in spite of who they are. Think about it... None of us walking this earth are perfect. We all have faults, some more prevalent than others, but we ALL have flaws. There is someone out there who loves us despite the imperfections that we see in ourselves. You all have spouses, significant others, children, friends, family members that love you in spite of who you are.
I think that love is not selfish. Love makes each and every one of us put our best foot forward. Love makes you want to do anything to please that person. Love doesn't seek out it's own selfish gain. You don't think in the back of your mind, what am I going to get out of loving this person? You give your heart to someone because you choose to.
Love is still love even when there may be dissension between a couple. When the feeling of anger replaces the bliss of love for the time being does that mean you love eachother any less? No it doesn't, simply because love isn't just a feeling. Feelings can change with as easily as the wind blows. Our feelings can lead us astray. Love is a choice, it's an action, it's something that is always evolving and growing.
Love is giving, love is kind, it's gentle and sweet, love is patient, love doesn't hurt. I think our one true example of love being all these things is the love that God showed us when He came down from glory, removed Himself from His throne, clothed himself in flesh to be our sacrifice so that we may have life everlasting. Can you imagine growing up your whole life knowing the death that you would have to die for people who didn't even like you, for people who didn't just not like you but were your enemy? Mothers, can you imagine giving your only child up for the sake of a bunch of undeserving strangers who didn't even know your child? How much can someone love another if they are willing to sacrifice their one and only son. That is called AGAPE love, that is the ultimate kind of love.
Each and every day I try to love with that kind of love. I love unselfishly, not expecting anything in return. I give wholeheartedly, I try to live according the Word that says love is quick to listen and slow to anger. I try to love with a love that doesn't have conditions. I don't judge and I love in spite one's imperfections. I love with my mind and not just my heart. So when I think about what is love? I think that love is kind and sweet, simple and complex, strong, dynamic, overpowering, all encompassing, easy and of free will.
So my word tonight for all those out there who aren't sure what love is I suggest you study the bible on love and you'll see real love in action from genesis to revelation.
Peace & Blessings
To me love is a choice, it isn't just a feeling of euphoria. I think that you choose to love a person in spite of who they are. Think about it... None of us walking this earth are perfect. We all have faults, some more prevalent than others, but we ALL have flaws. There is someone out there who loves us despite the imperfections that we see in ourselves. You all have spouses, significant others, children, friends, family members that love you in spite of who you are.
I think that love is not selfish. Love makes each and every one of us put our best foot forward. Love makes you want to do anything to please that person. Love doesn't seek out it's own selfish gain. You don't think in the back of your mind, what am I going to get out of loving this person? You give your heart to someone because you choose to.
Love is still love even when there may be dissension between a couple. When the feeling of anger replaces the bliss of love for the time being does that mean you love eachother any less? No it doesn't, simply because love isn't just a feeling. Feelings can change with as easily as the wind blows. Our feelings can lead us astray. Love is a choice, it's an action, it's something that is always evolving and growing.
Love is giving, love is kind, it's gentle and sweet, love is patient, love doesn't hurt. I think our one true example of love being all these things is the love that God showed us when He came down from glory, removed Himself from His throne, clothed himself in flesh to be our sacrifice so that we may have life everlasting. Can you imagine growing up your whole life knowing the death that you would have to die for people who didn't even like you, for people who didn't just not like you but were your enemy? Mothers, can you imagine giving your only child up for the sake of a bunch of undeserving strangers who didn't even know your child? How much can someone love another if they are willing to sacrifice their one and only son. That is called AGAPE love, that is the ultimate kind of love.
Each and every day I try to love with that kind of love. I love unselfishly, not expecting anything in return. I give wholeheartedly, I try to live according the Word that says love is quick to listen and slow to anger. I try to love with a love that doesn't have conditions. I don't judge and I love in spite one's imperfections. I love with my mind and not just my heart. So when I think about what is love? I think that love is kind and sweet, simple and complex, strong, dynamic, overpowering, all encompassing, easy and of free will.
So my word tonight for all those out there who aren't sure what love is I suggest you study the bible on love and you'll see real love in action from genesis to revelation.
Peace & Blessings
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
CAN WE SET THE STANDARD AND MAKE A CHANGE?
So today I woke up extra excited that I actually got one wheel in my huge master plan turning! This blog is actually a part of a big plan and so I've been thinking all day, what am I going to write about? What do I have to say? Is it profound? Does it have to be profound? No... it doesn't lol. All it has to do is make sense and make a point, right? What I want to talk about today is the importance of not losing sight of your dreams. This is very dear to my heart because I have always been a person who has had big dreams, dreams so big that I'm sure behind my back people thought that I was crazy and probably still do! The point is to never be concerned by what someone else thinks about you. How someone else feels about me does NOT define who I am. What defines me is how God sees me and how I need to learn how to see myself! If you're given these ideas, maybe it's because we're supposed to do something with them! I believe that we weren't put here to just work for someone else all of our lives. The Bible says that we are to be the head and not the tail, and that we are to be lenders and not borrowers. How can we do that if we're caught up in the everyday rat race barely making ends meet? I think in this day and age it is the time for us to set ourselves apart, let's stop letting the stock market determine who will have jobs or not have jobs today or tomorrow! We have to stir up that entrepreneurial spirit that is on the inside of all of us and start coming up with some God inspired ideas that will not only put us in a position of power, but because it was an idea given to us by God it is blessed and therefore will be prosperous!
I believe that now is the time for us to set ourselves up for owning our own businesses so that we can help other people in need, by providing jobs in the community, having the cash flow to be able to bless a person without hurting afterwards. We have to think BIG! Remember when you were a kid, how easy it was to think that you could be the president of the United States? Remember when it was OK to say I'm going to be a rocket scientist and believe it without batting an eye? We have to get back to that kid kind of faith that allows us to believe that we can. Somehow, in our transition from childhood to adulthood we lose sight of that kind of faith, we also start to think that it's not possible to become all those things that we thought we could do as children. However, NOTHING is impossible with God. If you trust Him, you can do all things... We can't be selfish or stingy with our gifts and talents, because remember God uses people to bless people, not using your gifts and talents or even doubting that you are capable is calling God a liar and our Father is not a man that He shall lie, we need to see ourselves how He sees us. We need to love ourselves like He loves us. If we could all just get a revelation of how He loves us and how He sees us then maybe we could all start to believe it and live up to that standard that He has called us to live! There are only people that you can touch, there are only people that will be able to receive from you, not using the resources that God has given you could cost you that person's soul. We are here not to just get blessed and keep it to ourselves but we are here to bless others. Let's face it, we live in a material world. The better you dress the better you are perceived, the more expensive car you drive the more successful you are assumed to be, if we live in a society that requires you to look and act and dress a certain way just to say that you are successful then, we have to start putting ourselves in the position to be able to play the part. How are you going to tell the young aspiring drug dealer to get off the corner, when he's just trying to hustle up some money for an official pair of True Religion $200 jeans when you're wearing Wrangler. Sad but true, that he would be able to tell the difference. How are you going to impress him, this young kid on the corner when you are rolling up in a put- put with an $80. bible. That won't impress today's generation. We have to look the part and we were called to be blessed and prosperous. Let's live up to our potential. Don't let your mind get in the way of your dreams. If you have dreams, write them down, post them on your walls so that you are reminded of them everyday and make a plan to make it happen! You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. You are the head and not the tail. Don't sell yourself short.
I believe that now is the time for us to set ourselves up for owning our own businesses so that we can help other people in need, by providing jobs in the community, having the cash flow to be able to bless a person without hurting afterwards. We have to think BIG! Remember when you were a kid, how easy it was to think that you could be the president of the United States? Remember when it was OK to say I'm going to be a rocket scientist and believe it without batting an eye? We have to get back to that kid kind of faith that allows us to believe that we can. Somehow, in our transition from childhood to adulthood we lose sight of that kind of faith, we also start to think that it's not possible to become all those things that we thought we could do as children. However, NOTHING is impossible with God. If you trust Him, you can do all things... We can't be selfish or stingy with our gifts and talents, because remember God uses people to bless people, not using your gifts and talents or even doubting that you are capable is calling God a liar and our Father is not a man that He shall lie, we need to see ourselves how He sees us. We need to love ourselves like He loves us. If we could all just get a revelation of how He loves us and how He sees us then maybe we could all start to believe it and live up to that standard that He has called us to live! There are only people that you can touch, there are only people that will be able to receive from you, not using the resources that God has given you could cost you that person's soul. We are here not to just get blessed and keep it to ourselves but we are here to bless others. Let's face it, we live in a material world. The better you dress the better you are perceived, the more expensive car you drive the more successful you are assumed to be, if we live in a society that requires you to look and act and dress a certain way just to say that you are successful then, we have to start putting ourselves in the position to be able to play the part. How are you going to tell the young aspiring drug dealer to get off the corner, when he's just trying to hustle up some money for an official pair of True Religion $200 jeans when you're wearing Wrangler. Sad but true, that he would be able to tell the difference. How are you going to impress him, this young kid on the corner when you are rolling up in a put- put with an $80. bible. That won't impress today's generation. We have to look the part and we were called to be blessed and prosperous. Let's live up to our potential. Don't let your mind get in the way of your dreams. If you have dreams, write them down, post them on your walls so that you are reminded of them everyday and make a plan to make it happen! You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. You are the head and not the tail. Don't sell yourself short.
In the beginning
I decided to start this blog as a way of release. I've always written and expressed myself through songs and poetry but since working a high stress very demanding career I've found that my creativity has been stifled. As I've noticed this I've asked God to bring the gift of expression back to me. Stir up all those creative juices so that I can bless the world with what He has given me. To introduce myself I am Daddy's Girl and the Daddy that I am referring to in my name is my heavenly father, my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I am a Christian woman and this blog site will definitely have Christian content as I can not hide or deny who I am however, my main purpose in this blog is to have real talk about real situations that people go through and how we can get through these situations together. I have many interests that are in different areas and you will notice that as my entries progress. I hope that you enjoy. Be blessed.
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